the anti-gay pastor preaches like an anti-gay lunatic

“If I had to say it again, I would say it differently, no doubt,” harris is quoted as saying. “Those weren’t planned words, but what I do stand by is that the word of God makes it clear that effeminate behavior is ungodly. I’m not going to compromise on that,” says north carolina preacher sean harris, in his defense against the outrage swarming his spoken word as a “man of god.”

effeminate behavior is ungodly?  that is the most ridiculous statement i have heard in quite some time.  it actually blows my mind to bits knowing that people, let alone people of god, are still speaking such ignorant, hateful words regarding the LGBT community. what year are we in? 2012.  things have changed mr. preacher man.  god is not the hater, you are.  in my opinion, you are a power-hungry man filled with such deep insecurity its hard for you to breathe on some days.  your authentic self is so buried deep in your ungodly soul that the spirit of the higher power you speak of is suffocating within you.  the dark walls that surround your being makes it hard for any light to seep through.  especially the light of god.  you are a bully.  your weapon of choice are your words.  you are damaging many lives with your judgement and lack of common knowledge regarding the human race, it’s differences, and the basis of lifes force…love.

lets now review your recent sermon and the lesson you give for treating effeminate behavior in our children.

wow.  as upsetting as your sermon makes me, my heart aches for you.  i have no choice but to have compassion for your ignorant views and beliefs.  your sad insight on god.  and your belief that he/she will judge us for who we choose to love.  and most importantly, your advice on punching our children, should they display any sort of “homosexual behavior.”  shame on you, pastor sean harris.  shame on you.

hello my name is donna and i am a lesbian.

i am a woman, and i love another woman.  my god will not punish me for giving my love to another.  male or female.  my god wants me happy.  joyous.  and free.  my god does not want me to judge my fellow human beings as ungodly.  for any reason.  because my god is love.  and love is the ultimate force of lifes drive.

all the cool girls are lesbians!

not really, but that is fun to say, being a lesbian myself.

i was thinking about my past relationships in life, and yes there were a few with men, and i began to daydream about why i enjoy being a lesbian.  here are the TOP 7 reasons that came to mind:

why i enjoy being a lesbian…

1.  my girlfriend and I communicate.  i mean we really communicate.  we analyze, dissect, marinate, and psycho-babble ourselves into the 4th dimension.  which i absolutely love!  we don’t yell, or scream, or throw things to get our point across.  we don’t intentionally cause emotional pain.  we talk.  and if needed we figure out how to do things better next time around to avoid conflict.  sounds so adult-like huh?  well my friends, it is.

2.  women understand each other.  a man will never fully understand a women’s mind, nor will a woman ever fully understand a man’s mind.  we really are from different galaxies.  two women in a relationship makes for two similar brain cycles working together.  women are naturally more emotional beings.  we can be dramatic.  overtly sensitive.  we think more deeply.  we cry more often then men.  we feel things on an abysmal level.  and we intuitively know how to comfort another woman in need of comforting.  it’s a natural instinct.  in my experience, (heterosexual) men don’t really have much of a clue about comforting, nor do they want to learn about how to do it.  tears make them uber uncomfortable.

3.  sex is intuitive.  that should be obvious.  when you have the same parts, you know what to do with them.  and in my opinion, sex is also way more intimate and emotional (for me) with another woman.  my past experience with men lacked intimacy.  it was sex for the act of sex.  not sex for the act of love.   plus, it simply didn’t feel right to me.

4.  the menstrual cycle isn’t seen as dooms day.  it’s understood and not ran from.

5.  women can kiss!  there is no kiss like a womans kiss.  if my lips touch the right woman, i feel it through every inch of my body.  its electric. and it is truly one of my favorite things to do…kissing my girl is a beautiful thing.

6.  im just one of the guys.  i get along with men on a different level now.  im looked at as one of them.  it’s loads of fun!  men are way more themselves when us women are not in sight.  they talk differently and they say things they otherwise wouldn’t dare say in front of a woman.  but after finding out im a lesbian, there is not much held back by the guys any longer.  i hear the way they talk about that girl over there in those skin-tight jeans.  it can be very boorish, but i must admit it’s sometimes fun to play that macho man role with the boys now and again. the men may talk with some vulgarity, and no one  (generally) gets hurt or offended.  im just one of the guys, as they say.  and really, i always have been.  i should have known long long ago i was a lesbian!

7.  no one questions why i am wearing a tie.  and damn it, i love ties!

i am a grateful and very happy lesbian.  i wouldn’t change things if i could.  i am what i am and i love what i am.

i still love men, i just don’t want to sleep with them or have a “relationship” with them.  women have my heart.

xoxo

thanks for stopping by.

my long distance heart

long distance relationships.  i’ve not experienced one until now.  and it is a challenge of the heart.

in a nutshell…..

i live in los angeles.  she lives in new york.  3 hour time difference and approximately  2,813 miles away from each other.  our relationship began in los angeles, where i met her.  she was here for business.  we met through mutual friends at a group dinner.  our first interaction was an argument about squirrels.  what better way to start off a relationship then with your first fight?  gets the awkwardness of fight #1 out of the way right from the gate!

after several weeks in los angeles she had to head back to new york.  and so the long distance began.  i soon found myself on a flight back east. i spent part of the christmas holiday there and returned home after new years.

i now spend one week per month working from new york so that our relationship can survive.  and grow.  and so that there is a date to look forward to…that being the day we get to be together again.  imagine never knowing when you will see your partner again?  that is just too difficult.  so my having the ability to work from the east coast once a month is a gift. and every so often she travels to  los angeles for work.  and that is always a great surprise.

once a month we come together.  things are great.  fun.  domestic.  happy.   it’s an unexpected compatibility.  smiles.  but then comes the day when i have to get on a plane and come back to los angeles.   that is when a slight feeling of separation anxiety sets in.  i do miss her when i leave.

long distance relationships.  they are a challenge on the heart.

here is the big question:   is the challenge  worth it?

here are a few query’s to help find that answer…..does the relationship feel right?  feel strong enough?  does he/she positively impact your life?  does it feel like more then just another “relationship?”   do you miss him/her when you are apart.  think about them often?  Is there some sort of love growing, by your definition?

you get the idea.

long distant relationships.  they are a challenge on the heart & emotions.  but for me, today, that challenge is well worth it.